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Day 27&28


Day 27: What makes me feel better, always:

Would be my son, talking to God, reading my Bible, Sunshine, Going on walks, Taking Pics.

Day 28: Last time I cried: HHHMMMM, I’m not really a cryer, so maybe 2-3 weeks ago? although I may cry Friday when my son goes in for surgery!

Day 24-26 ( oops behind)



Day 24) Difficult time in my life would be back in  2014, when I was real sick, and my husband, son, and I had to live with my in-laws for about 4 months. Then lived with my husbands grandma for a month, but for I could go back to our house.

Day 25) Best Physical Features would be my hair, smile, I maybe little but I’m very strong. Don’t under mistake a small girl/woman. I’ve handled big horses that want to pull you, but I hold on tight, and show them whose boss. I take no crap from anyone.

Day 26) Five Favorite Blogs:

  1. My Anxiety Blog
  2. Grandma Blog
  3. Famous in a Smalltown
  4. My Valentine’s Blog
  5. My first Blog

spike- Daily Prompt

via Daily Prompt: Spike

Spike, so things come to mind. One, I love when my son takes a bath, his hair is all wet getting out of the tube, and I spike his hair just for kicks, I want to send a pic. to my grandma-in-law which she doesn’t use her phone for that, so I’d have to go see, which we are soon! But Grandma hates when people spike their hair, but I don’t want to give the old lady a heart attack,lol.

Two, the word spike reminds me of playing volleyball at camp, and with the youth girls that I was their Bible Study leader. After classes we’d play volleyball at night, and the girls would spike the ball to the other team and visa versa.

Three, at prom we’d have to be careful that no one spiked the punch.

Day 22

My 10 fav songs:

I’m still a guy- Brad Paisley

He can’t bait a hook- Justin Moore

Soul on Fire- Third Day

Momentum- Toby Mac

Cinderella- Michael W Smith

Me and God- Josh Turner

Temperoary Home- Carrie Underwood 

Boot Scoot Boogy- Billy Ray Cyrus 

J Train- Toby Mac 

Butterfly Kisses- Bob Carlile 

Song Stuck to My Head

Miranda Lambert- Famous in A Smalltown

Reminds me of going to the Famous Smalltown, where my Aunt L lives, and where my Grandparents lived. Small town, big talk. I’m close with the kids I grew up down there with for the summers, I remember going down there for a sports camp, one girl braided my hair, we put make up on one of the male leaders, we sang Christmas Carols at a nursing home, for our “Christmas in July” themed camp. I remember moving G&G lawn. All the pups grandpa raised, bred his sheltie.

If we were late for church, every one looked at the front door, or side stairs to the sanctuary. Never knew anyone that went to jail down there. I don’t think they even have a jail for 100-200 people. Never once seen a cop car. The drive from my Aunt L’s to my G&G was maybe 5 mins, depending who was driving. Going to the dairy farm open fields, G&G W’s to G&G S’s is where we had dinner.

I can clearly remember the day I got the message from my boss told me my mom called, and I needed to go home for a family emergency. I knew I knew it was my Grandpa S, I had this bad feeling something happened to him, I cried the whole way home, about 30 mins, because he was sick and was recently at Mayo Clinic in Minnesota, when the tech asked if Gpa had had a heart attack because he had water around his heart, he replied no, he felt fine, but that my Gpa stubborn. Nothing bothered him, and never admitting pain. That morning we got the call, Gma called and said Gpa was up early in the morning to use the bathroom, when he returned to bed, he didn’t even make it back in bed, Gma, said wake up B, and no response just foamed mouth, sleeping soundly on the bed, but she knew he was gone to our Father in Heaven. Gpa was always the one you know you are always dragging him behind talking to strangers, not about anything, but sharing the Love of Christ and making sure they were saved, boy I wish I had his courageousness to do that.

Going on a missions trip is the only time I open up to strangers on the street, you heart is so fired up, but once we’re home, it tends to soften down. The missions trip I went on was in Tunica,MS. We slept in a camping based area, luckily we had bunk beds, running water and electricity. Not all mission trips do we get that. Our mission campus was in a bad neighborhood, I remember walking ministry day, and I walked with 2 of my best friends, tall, and scary looking men. Best bodyguards. We walked on one street where people were shooting up, and the guys didn’t want me to see it,and told me to cover my eyes to not let me see it. God, led us out of that situation to a park nearby where kids were playing basketball, we joined playing basketball, and the one boy took us to his house to talk to his dad,how wonderfully we got to witness to the dad and boy, and the dad even gave us waffles for breakfast. An amazing giving 3 white strangers into his home. This was a very bad area. In Mississippi they’ve richly white people side, and poor black people, so racist down there, why can’t we all get along? I’ve good friends that are black, I love this quote from Ducky from NCIS: “Black is just a color, we’re all red on the inside.” I have a brother half black/white, a brother whose half mexican/white, race doesn’t bother me, as long as you don’t hurt my family.

I love everyone! One day I want to do a missions trip in a foreign country to do medical aide. And one day to visit Jerusalem to walk where Jesus walked!

Day 20 & 21



20: Big 40! My son will be 13, oh  my a teenager, I thought 2’s were back

now a rebellious teenager, I don’t know. But I see myself, as a loving wife, comforting mother, living in a nice ranch, with horses, and acres of land so quiet, I can relax and walk in the deep words and talk to my Father. Married for 18 years to my husband/best friend til death do us part.

21: I miss riding with my best friend, but unfortunately, she moved 1,300 miles away. I miss my pony, her and I worked so well together, I never had to use my legs, she was very mouthed broke. I miss riding/running in the fields to release stress/anxiety. Or racing in the biggest pasture, or racing up hills. The good ol’ days! Oh when we were young!

He came back like a rolling thunder!!

The airwaves crackled with radio calls that day. A U.S. attack helicopter had been forced to crash land in the desert just north of Baghdad and about 20 soldiers, members of Delta Force, had arrived to help protect it and fly the wounded to safety… but the rescuers soon found themselves under heavy attack from al-Qaeda.

“Mayday, mayday!” was the frantic call for help. Mortars, rounds, RPG’s, and two trucks outfitted with machine guns headed their way… they were taking a beating and with no place to hide, the troops needed immediate help.

“We had called our people, our command, and requested tank support, helicopter support, anything to help us because we were being overrun,” the radioman later reported. “Nobody would help us. They couldn’t get in because it was too hot.”

Then, miraculously, Troy Gilbert appeared in his F-16.

Enemy forces were too close to civilians and US troops to bomb, so Gilbert dropped fast and low- to a mere 200 feet above the desert. His cockpit warning system blared into his headset, “Pull up, pull up, pull up!”

He did, but not until after he’d unloaded his six-barreled Gatling gun into a truck full of al-Qaeda fighters.

Gilbert screamed into a right turn and circled back to open up again, this time on the second truck. He fired two bursts at the second truck before pulling hard on the control stick to regain altitude… but it was too late.

His son, now 19, says, “He had to act quickly, and within a matter of seconds. Knowing him, there was no other option [but successfully completing his mission].”

The F-16 was pointing up when it slammed tail first into the ground less than a second after those gun bursts.

Air Force investigators said, “This motivation to immediately support friendly forces under fire produced a series of decisions and flight parameters that left little room for recovery on the first strafe pass, and no possibility of recovery on the second pass. Gilbert died because of his excessive motivation to succeed.”

In other words, Troy Gilbert made a choice that day to rescue his fellow Americans at the cost of his own life.

You may wonder why I’m telling you the story of Troy Gilbert on Easter and here’s why:

Somebody came after you.

Do you get that?

You were in dire straights, under attack, hopeless, stranded, abandoned by everyone else and doomed for a massive takedown by a ruthless enemy… and Someone came after you.

At the cost of His own life, he showed up to redeem yours.

Friends, that’s a big deal. I know sometimes we become so familiar with the facts of the gospel and going through religious motions that we forget what actually and really occurred. We forget how desperate we were and the Divine intervention… and cost… that was made on our behalf.

When feasting at the table of grace, we can forget the excruciating act of love done for an unknown struggler on the backside of the desert.

But I also know something else. I know that someone reading this still needs to be rescued. You are in that desert right now and the enemy is closing in. You’re a goner, an unknown, a hopeless one sending your “mayday, mayday!” with no one responding.

You aren’t sure God is on your side and you don’t know how to get His attention. You are bleeding out and no one cares. If you were to die tonight, you aren’t sure you’d go to heaven.

Friend, you can settle that right now. I can’t rescue you but I can tell you how to call out to the Redeemer who will. He is standing by, on the alert, scanning the skies and ready to swoop down just for you. Today, on this Easter Sunday, it is my joy and privilege to tell you how in 4 simple steps.

1. Acknowledge your need. Our universal problem isn’t ISIS, cancer, betrayal or our circumstances. It’s our own sin. Sin is what’s separated us from God and the consequences of sin is death. This means physical death but it also means spiritual death. (See Romans 6:23) Your sin is the biggest problem in your life, wreaking havoc… and it’s one you can’t deal with on your own.

2. Accept God’s provision for sin. God sent a perfect Redeemer to rescue you from sin. When you were without hope, separated from God, and doomed to an eternity in hell, God acted. Independent of you, He sent His one and only Son, Jesus Christ, to die in your place so that you could have His righteousness. Jesus willingly took your place. He is the only way to God because He is the only One who perfectly fulfilled the requirements of God on your behalf.

3. Place your full trust in Jesus Christ and what He did. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.” God asks you to believe this amazing news! He doesn’t ask you to go to church, read your Bible, fast, pray, clean up your act or stand on your head in order to be rescued. He asks that you believe He is THAT good and THAT competent, that He singlehandedly accomplished everything on your behalf. This is amazing! The sad thing is, many people won’t believe it because they find it too simple.

4. Surrender your life to the Lordship of Christ. When Jesus becomes your rescuer, He also becomes your Lord. Just as a drowning person, we must relinquish control of our own lives in order to be rescued. Jesus will transfer you from the domain of darkness to the Kingdom of light, which means He doesn’t redeem you so you can build your own little castle and live life however you want. He redeems us that we may “declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” (I Peter 2:9).

Romans 10:9 says, “If you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”

Christianity isn’t just a fire insurance policy. It is a new life of following a new master (Jesus). We daily take up our cross and follow Him (Luke 9:23). If you are ready for this new life, simply call out to Him! He is near and ready to save. Acknowledge your need, accept God’s provision, place your trust in Christ, and surrender your life to Him.

Happy Easter my friend. My prayer is that today, each and every one reading this exults in the Greatest Rescue Mission of all time and the greatest victory He accomplished when He rose again. Praise GOD!!!

He Has Risen!!!#

After being beaten and crucified on the cross! My Jesus has risen from the dead, 3 days wholes in his hands, came back to Earth to take away our sins! Does miracles while he’s here until he’s lifted on a cloud back to Heaven to be with His Holy Father!!! He’s going to return soon!! 

John 3:16

Happy Easter!!!

Blessings by Laura Engall!

Who’s the disciplinary in the Family?

Is it the mother?

The father? 

Both parents?

If your child is hitting you,pinching you, punching you in the head? 

You or your spouse? Both? 

What are the discilpines? Grounded? Toys taken away? Playing outside? 

Age of child/children? 3-12 How would this be in your family? 

Or as a single parent?

Stay at home moms/dads?

Good Friday

Today, Christ is being beaten with whips for hours on end, he’s being spit on, name called, clothes ripped off, ppl chanting “kill him” because he said he was Jesus, son of God. Was made to carry his cross up a steep rocky hill while being beaten. When they got to the hill he was crowned with thorns pushed into his head, he was nailed to the cross feet crossed nail in the feet, nailed in both hands( these nails we like railroad tracks) they raised his cross up hanging there, they said do u want a drink? Which was on a sponge, he refused. They shoved a sword through his side through his rib cage and through his spleen. Leaving him to bleed and die, while his mother watched everything. Before Christ died his last words were “It is done!” 

John 3:16 & John 14:6

Day 14

U don’t want to know what’s in my purse, I don’t even know half the time lol. 

3 notebooks

Prayer journal, book(how to pray)

My small bible 

Anxiety verses in a photo holder 


Perfume, deodorant 

2 note pad, sticky notes

4 granola bars

4 pens, 2 highlighters, paperclip

2 small hand saniterz lotion, thermometer

2 medicines 

Culvers kid coupon

2 batman stickers, 1 dory sticker.  How does my son get stickers when I’m the patient? HHMMM!



Receipt from Oct lol


Blue tooth, Easter invitations, Cubbies patch, pottery clay( from church how God molds us)

And finally: KEYS!!!!

I’m like Mary Poppins, if you need it I’ve got it!!!!

Day 12

If I won the lottery:

1) ny husband’s grandma would have a flipping fit is she knew I played the lottery. 

2) depending on the amount, I’d buy a dog, horse, and run my horse business finally!!! 

3) I’d buy a ranch in the South! Where it’s warmer than here!!

Day 7

10 Fav. Foods

1) chocolate

2) 3 cheese pasta from Olive Garden

3) Cupcakes by Lil Debbie

4) Ho-Hos by Lil Debbie

5) Pizza (hawiann pizza, or black olives and bacon)

6) Mac n Cheese w hotdogs

7) Fruits

8) crackers w can cheese

9) Brown Sweagger n crackers

10) yellow tomatoes

Dear Allergies

Dear Allergies,

Please leave!!!!

I’m stuffed up, watery eyes, ear pain, no voice, extremely tired, dizzy, loss of balance. I love Spring but you make me suffer from dust, field plowing,pollen,weeds. Although, I hate winter, once the ground freezes all this goes away that’s all I like about snow/winter. Other than that I’d rather be in TX!!!!


Allery Sufferer

Day 4

Going to a private school when I graduated Kindergarten I wore a robe, cap w tassle, and got my first bible for graduating. And I remember my new school piblic this time 1st grade, my teacher was Ms. Lemon, 2nd grade was Mrs. Grzanich, 3rd grade was Mr. Thoms, 4th grade was Ms. I can’t remember,lol. And 5th grade was Mrs. Bazan and her husband was my PE teacher. After 5th grade I don’t remember my teachers because we started switching periods in that grade. Do you remember your teachers?

Day 3 

I don’t have a business I’m trying to start but life is crazy at the moment. But the meaning of my blog name lifeinperspective is to see things now not in the future or past, just straightforward. Then I’d like to write a book someday called “Life on the outside”!

Day 2 

20 facts about me: 

1) First and foremost, I’m a daughter of God, a follower of Jesus Christ

2) I’m the oldest of 6 siblings 

3) I married my husband 7 years ago

4) We welcomed our one and only child Nov. 2012 we’ll call him Bubby. 

5) I’m a musician

6) I’m a stay-at-home mom

7) I like to do crafts, sew, crochet, color, draw

8) I’m an animal lover

9) When I had a pony we beat 30 horses in a game and we won musical cones against a kid.

10) My dream is to own/run a horse farm. 

11) I believe in prayer, I read my Bible and love giving loving verses to help people.

12) I’m very caring, loveable, friendly

13) Sarcasm is my 2nd language

14) I’m a country girl stuck in the city. Tomboy all here!!!

15) I lost a set of grandparents 7 yrs apart. 

16) I love comedies

17) I’m a medical freak. I know basic first aid lol.

18) I’ve a disease no one can see.

19) My husband is 6 yrs older than me!

20) I love Jesus, I hope you do too, or I can share God’s word with you. John 3:16

G’Nite, Amber

Day 1 

My name is Amber, I’m an early 30 year old, 7 years married to my husband, with one son who is 4 we’ll call him Bubby!

We live in a smalltown in IL, boy I wish I lived in a warmer state. I’m a stay-at-home mom. I love riding horses, photography, arts, toddler crafts lol. I’ve musical talents, my interest lately has been wanting to ball room dance or getting back into dance classes. I love hiking, fishing, anything outdoors, I’m down to the core country girl stuck in the city. 

Yes, I’m religious, I’m a Christian I believe that Christ died for me, I’ll have verses on my page and I may share them with you to share the love of Christ. 

Zippity Doo Da 

Going to an unexpected appt today. Originally called for refill then I wanted to leave a message for a nurse for chest n stomach pain for 2 weeks and they said come in. They don’t like those symptoms. 

In bible study last night I cried I’m afraid I’m loosing my marriage. I’ve tried my best, when there’s no communication or affection it makes it so much harder. 


Why do I feel so lonely with you? Why do I feel sad/sick all the time? And cry when no one knows? Do you still love me? I don’t know. I feel like a single mom when u take extra side jobs it’s killing me literally the stress is getting to me. I don’t know what to do. Any advice?

Please I’m hurting!!!

X-Ray Vision

No I don’t have, but if I did I’d like to see them from their past, who they were, their personality, attitude. Or seeing what they’re thinking in the moment. And how their going to react. I know my husband doesn’t understand my illness, and he thinks my son and I never get along, but we’ve an incredible bond in all my pics all you see are my son and I, maybe my husband at holidays. We’ve had not one family pic since he was 10 months old. I feel alone like an only parent. Any advice?

Worn Out

I feel like I’ve been running all week to the dr, to the store, to my mom’s, to my aunt’s (which her father-in-law is in his final days/hours please pray for their family), went to the library. It’s not the places I went that’s worn me out it’s the driving mostly back roads and scenic but driving about 100 miles a day or week drains you physically and mentally thank you Lord for the weekend!